watch what you say around a new mom!

note:  i wrote this when i was six weeks postpartum... that was 25 weeks ago... 6 months ago!  FYI...

so, this shouldn't be my first post since blogging/updating everyone on our babies' birth.  but, i had to write this.

be careful what you say.  

here are two examples as to why you should be careful when speaking to a woman...

after my postpartum six-week checkup at the doctor's, i went to sprouts to pick up prenatals, fish oil, and fenugreek (increase milk production).  i picked up a few other things, and went to check out.  behind me in line was this family with two boys and i noticed that as i was paying, the dad looked at me, whispered to his wife... then, i heard the dreaded from his wife:

how far along are you?
i just delivered twin girls. (didn't even make eye contact; looked at the cashier as he was ready to give me my receipt)
omi... omigosh... how long ago was that? 
they're six weeks old.
wow, you look GREAT.  i hope that doesn't offend you.  (i took my receipt and walked away- the cashier was mortified as the couple was.)

classic reason as to why you need to be CAREFUL when approaching a woman and choosing your words carefully. :)  for heaven sakes, i think i look pretty good for just delivering!!!  yes, i have some weight left around my mid-section that would reveal itself in a fitted shirt, but c'mon... i lost all but five pounds within two weeks, including one week being at home... breastfeeding as much as possible!  i breastfeed all of the time... TWO babies!  it really helps you lose weight.

but, seriously?!  did those people not have a brain?  you NEVER say that to a woman UNLESS you're 100% sure.

second classic example:

i was returning to work and i was 17 weeks along (give or take), and during some transitional time, someone says to me,

are you expecting?
uh, yes, i am...
oh, i wasn't sure if that was a tumor (pointing to my belly).


I WAS SHOCKED.  SERIOUSLY?!?!?!?!?

so, i ask: what outrageous things have people said to you?